Beach Reading

The qualification for inclusion on my summer reading list is that a book has to be beach reading. No matter that it’ll be at least another six years before I get to ever crack a book at the actual beach. There have been times in my life when I could slog through a slow-moving book, but I have to be honest with myself and say that this isn’t one of them. If a book has even the slightest potential to put me to sleep, I’ll never get past page 3.

So what I’m going for this summer is beautifully written books that are also fantastic page turners. Here’s the start of my list.

What’s at the top of your summer reading list?

1. The Vicious Red Relic, Love by Anna Joy Springer
2. Tinkers by Paul Harding
3. Ms. Hempel Chronicles by Sarah Shun-Lien Bynum
4. On Black Sisters’ Street by Chika Unigwe
5. Toward You by Jim Krusoe
6. Dancer by Colum McCann

Pretty is Available for Pre-Order

For some reason it always feels like at the last minute someone’s going to tell me that I’ve been punked and no one is really publishing my book after all. But I guess Pretty is really coming out, because it’s now available for pre-order at Powell’s, Barnes and Noble and Amazon! Or you can wait until it comes out on August 30 and buy it at your local independent bookstore.

You can read more about it here. Tour schedule coming soon.

Roots of Connection Breakfast

Many people have commented or emailed with questions about the blog I wrote on why we don’t punish T. Well, I didn’t make that stuff up. Scott and I learned most of it at The Echo Parenting and Education Center. The center is an invaluable resource for us and for many other parents and educators. They’re having a free breakfast event on June 1. We’ll definitely be there. Come join us! Here’s the info from the website:

Please come to our first ever Roots of Connection Breakfast on June 1st! We’re so excited that this event will be held at the legendary Dominick’s restaurant!

This is a free one hour event with great food, inspiration from Echo Parenting & Education staff and board, and a multimedia presentation. You’ll be asked to give, but it’s not required! There’s no minimum or maximum amount, we’d be thrilled to have you come.

Seating is limited, so it’s crucial that you RSVP to Glenda by email, glinares@echoparenting.org or phone, 213.484.6676 ext. 310.

If you can’t attend but would like to contribute, click here to DONATE NOW.

Event location:

Dominick’s is located at 8715 Beverly Blvd. West Hollywood, CA 90048
(310) 652-2335
valet parking is available for $5

Accentuate the Positive

I realize that sometimes I’m guilty of sharing the hard parenting moments and breezing right over the good stuff. So I’d like to give you an update on our struggles with T and his challenging behaviors, because we’ve had a few pretty amazing breakthroughs. I attribute them in large part to the work we’ve been doing since we attended the Heather Forbes seminar a few months back.

Far and away the most challenging thing for me to deal with has been T’s rejection of me. Even when I’m able to remain grounded and patient and not take it personally all day long (it’s a rare day, but it happens), come bedtime I still find myself lying there with tears rolling down my face, thinking that in a million years I never imagined being a mother would feel like this.

I’ve decided to answer his rejection with yet more affection. Every time my impulse is to walk away, I instead go tell him I love him and offer another hug. Even if it means getting bopped in the face with a train car yet again.

Well, I’m thrilled to report that there’s been a definite shift. I’m still getting a pretty regular smack-down; I got an airplane wing in the eyeball just yesterday. But T has been accepting my love and snuggles lately more often than not. We’re having more fun together when we hang out just the two of us. And he’s been looking to me for comfort, which is major.

I imagine for parents with children without disrupted attachment, this must sound as normal as breathing. But for us it signals a profound shift.

Scott is leaving for tour tomorrow and I dread the fallout of that because Daddy is the star of our show around here. I imagine we’ll have some good old fashioned regression. But overall, I feel tremendously encouraged.

And yes, that’s a whoopie cushion he’s sitting on in the picture. Because I believe it’s important to expose children to culture as early as possible.

Do the Twist

Maybe it was because Scott was out of town and it was one of those mornings with T that seemed to stretch on forever, but I got inspired to try a new ‘do. It was pretty spontaneous and as a result my sections were messy and uneven at the beginning. I also probably could have gotten some product suggestions, although our Miss Jessie’s Curly Pudding worked just fine. Next time I do it, I’ll consult one of the awesome websites geared to white mommies/back hair, like Happy Girl Hair. I’ll also plan for it taking longer than I originally thought. This took about an hour. And T loves nothing better than sitting still for an hour. Actually, we had to bust out the Yo Gabba Gabba about five minutes into it.

The result: ridiculously cute. I don’t have quite as many hair options as my friends with girls, but it was still fun to change his look around. Next stop, cornrows.