Our Children

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Tariku has finally been getting some targeted help for his sensory integration issues and it’s making a world of difference. It’s taken us years to land on a recipe that has been having some measurable and surprisingly quick results. I say this to give hope to any parents out there who feel like you’re reading every book and taking every class and spending your last dollar and you’re just beating your head against a wall. I’ve had those months. I actually had a pretty solid year-and-a-half like that. But the last biting incident he had at school set into motion a chain of events that led us to a great child development specialist, who sent us to a kick-ass occupational therapist and also helped us find a therapeutic aide for him in the classroom.

One thing I’ve noticed about the professionals who serve the special needs community is that they often refer to the children as “our children,” as a way of distinguishing them from kids who are developing more typically. As in, “It’s sometimes hard for our children handle unexpected touch.” Or, “Our children have a difficult time visually organizing new environments.” Etc.

I find it soothing. It makes me feel less alone and reminds me that children are raised by communities not individuals. We never asked to be a part of this particular community. Who does? Well, some very exceptional adoptive parents I know do, but most of the selfish rest of us don’t wake up and say- wow, I’d really like to go to lots and lots of therapy with my five-year-old until I’m so harried that I need some for myself as well. And yet here we are. What I’ve found is that I’ve met an amazing group of smart, tough, exceptionally compassionate individuals and they have improved not just my son’s life but also mine.

2 Responses to 'Our Children'

  1. Hi Jillian-
    I recognized you the other day when you were at the park with T and introduced myself. I’ve followed your blog after reading your book :)
    I was *this* close to mentioning I’m a pediatric OT (I posted once before to recommend the book, The Out of Sync Child). I’m so happy to hear that you found an amazing OT for your son! It truly makes a difference,
    -Adriane

    • Jillian says:

      Hello! That was such a treat running into you at the park. It always makes me feel good to know people are reading the work and responding to it. How nice that you’re a pediatric OT- it has been an absolutely essential piece of the puzzle for us.

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