I Wrote a Book!


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There’s a lot of exciting stuff going on that I want to share with you…

It’s been over six years since we brought Tariku home, and it’s been slightly longer than that since I began writing this blog. I originally started it because I was so overwhelmed with the whole adoption process and I didn’t feel I had the time to properly communicate with all of our friends and family about it. It was meant to be a small thing- just a document of our family pictures and stories for our loved ones. I didn’t dream anyone else would be interested. I was wrong about that.

Throughout our long, circuitous, sometimes funny, often painful journey to start a family, Scott and I frequently felt alone. In our immediate circle, we didn’t know anyone who was experiencing what we were going through. It was during this time that I started reading mom blogs like Rage Against the Minivan, Dooce, Welcome to My Brain, Storing up Treasures, The Eyes of My Eyes are Opened, Jamie Ivey… I could go on and on. These women quickly became a lifeline for me. In their blogs, I found inspiration, connection, hope. Now, some of these bloggers are my dear friends.

Writing about our trials and joys over the years has given me an outlet for my thoughts and feelings, as well as being the place that I create meaning for myself out of chaos. It has blown my world wide open. Now, when I have questions related to adoption, or parenting special needs, or transracial families, or how to cook great Ethiopian food, I’m only a few keystrokes from connecting with answers and encouragement and support. This is what can happen when we share our stories. When we allow ourselves to be vulnerable. When we let others know us.

In fact, I liked the experience so much that I wrote a book about the whole glorious disaster that is us.

And now it’s mere months from publication! I just got the galley copies (the advance uncorrected proofs that go out to reviewers and press) in the mail yesterday.

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It’s not the first time I’ve opened a box to see, finally, after years of work, my book between two covers. But it was certainly the most thrilling. It was also the least fraught. That’s a picture of Tariku from behind on the cover (he’s pissed that it’s not his face, actually). It makes me happy every time I look at it. I had a whole lot more ego and anxiety wrapped up in the release of my other books. Nothing can suck all the joy out of an experience quite like having something to prove.

This time feels very different to me. With this book, my hope is simply that someone out there will be made less lonely by it. I hope you read it. I hope you loan it to your friends. It’s called Everything You Ever Wanted and it’s going to be released May 5, but you can pre-order it now.

I’ll be announcing the tour dates soon. If you have a book club or an event in your town and you’d like me to come speak, let me know. I can be talked into almost anything if you offer me cheese.

Thanks for all your support and cheerleading and love over the years! I couldn’t have done it without you.

4 thoughts on “I Wrote a Book!

  1. I’m very excited to read this and hope your book tour brings you to Seattle and Portland. I live exactly between the two, and I’d love to host a reading/book event in my home. I hosted Erin Austin in December for a house concert and it was Doe Bay magic all over again. Contact me and we can talk about details. I will gladly provide cheese. 🙂

  2. Wait a tick…is that dummy bar for me? Ha Ha. Now I know exactly where to comment! Thank you.

    I’m so excited for you. I can’t imagine the feeling of opening the box and seeing him on the cover. I can’t imagine how that would feel to release those pages into the world? I just pre-ordered my other copy!

    You are such an inspiration. Sharing the story of our daughter Aviana is so important to me. It’s post like these that help keep the fire burning extra bright.

    Thank you,


  3. Hi Jillian,
    This is from Cathi Hanauer’s mother, Words Bookstore, May 14th. I just wanted to tell you that I loved your book. Even after adopting my own child and working for most of my life as a special Ed teacher, pre school handicapped kids, I learned so much from you. Your patience is remarkable. You kept seeking help until you finally found the right combination. Tariku will do well in this world. I want to wish you great happiness with your wonderful family. Good luck with the next adoption and please write about that one too. You write beautifully.
    Bette Hanauer

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