I’m a writer, storyteller, adoption advocate, mom, rock-wife, and Los Angeleno, by way of Jersey. I’m the New York Times bestselling author of the memoirs Everything You Ever Wanted, Some Girls: My Life in a Harem and the novel Pretty. Some Girls has been translated into 18 different languages and is currently being adapted for TV. I write a lot of essays and articles, some of which have been in The New York Times, The Paris Review, Vanity Fair, Los Angeles Magazine, Elle, The Daily Beast and Salon, among others. I speak and tell live stories, often with The Moth. Howard Stern interviewed me once and he was actually really nice! I did a Tedx talk about identity and adoption, in 2014 at Chapman University. Shredding musician Scott Shriner and I live with our two pirate sons on the top of a hill in Silverlake. Together we battle hipsters to reach the Intelligentsia counter.




Happy National Adoption Month…a Day Late! / December 1, 2017

It’s been a while, I know. I’ve missed you! As we barrel headlong into the holidays, I wanted to reach out and tell you how thankful I am, always, for entrusting me with your precious time and attention. Almost everyone I know approaches the holidays with some combination of excitement and dread. There is the […]


National Foster Care Month / May 30, 2017

You deserve to be happy… That was the well-worn refrain of my girlfriends, when we were in our early twenties. Usually in response to misery over some guitar player or other with long eyelashes, perfectly cut jeans, and a tendency to make out with your roommates. Get rid of that loser! You deserve to be […]



The RaiseAChild #ReimagineFosterParents™ campaign is designed to update public perception of foster and fost/adopt families. The multi-media campaign features images and personal interviews with twelve sets of foster-to-adopt parents including celebrities and civic leaders from across Southern California.
Special thanks to RaiseAChild partner agency, Five Acres!

Alliance of Moms is a new generation of philanthropists whose mission it is to break the intergenerational cycle of babies born to teens in Foster Care. This May Campaign video features Kristen Bell and Jordan Brewster.

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Family Roots December 9, 2014
A woman finds an unexpected new family when she adopts a son, a bad soldier learns to write from personal loss, and a man is working at a nuclear power plant when disaster strikes.

The Prince and I, April 23, 2013
A woman boards a plane for Brunei in search of a modern day fairy tale.

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